Time for an Appointment with a Fertility Doctor? What Are You Afraid Of?
Making an appointment with a fertility doctor means making a decision, sometimes a scary decision. It means that you are acknowledging a problem and have decided to do something about it.
It’s proactive. It’s empowering.
And it can be scary.
Is it Time to Make an Appointment with a Fertility Doctor?
The fear is usually that something will be irrevocably wrong. Bottom line fear is often that you will never become pregnant and that’s really the last thing that you want to find out. In fact, I waited about nine months longer than recommended to see a board certified Reproductive Endocrinologist for just that reason. I was afraid to find out that I was out of luck and nothing could be done. And I was more content to live for nine months in fear than moving forward. I’m not judging it – I’m sharing that’s what I did.
The reality is that rarely do you hear that nothing can be done. The reality is that most likely, most often, you will find things that can either be repaired or bypassed so that you can have a successful pregnancy and the baby you have been wanting.
The reality is that there is hope and that fear can be diminished with more information.
That’s why it’s proactive, empowering and brave to make the appointment with a fertility doctor.
What Are You Afraid Of?
Education and information that can be acted upon are all those things– and still fear needs to be respected. Fear serves a purpose. It calls our attention for a reason and it often provokes us to ask more questions. Often the right questions.
Acknowledging the fear that you are feeling rather than trying to talk yourself out of it or sweeping it under the proverbial rug can actually empower you as well. It’s that moment where you say to yourself, “OK, this is scary. I don’t want to find out that something is really wrong. Really really wrong. But whatever it is, I’m strong enough to hear it. I’m strong enough to do what I need to do. I’m strong enough for whatever comes my way.”
Proactive. Empowering and brave.
Three words that I associate with infertility.
Face your fear. Make the appointment.
Find out what you need to know.
And remember that you are not alone.
We are here for you.
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.