Finding My Own Peace Within Infertility
Peace in the Midst of Infertility and Chaos
There are places that I know bring me peace. In the midst of infertility and the chaos that it brought, I sought these places out to bring relief.
Where can you go where you feel that deep sigh from within, signaling safety? Letting you know that you have come home?
Sometimes those moments come in unexpected places. I’ve felt at home in places that were shocking.
For instance, in a coffee house with a friend after revealing a secret. In my own bedroom, letting go of everything at the door, walking in completely unburdened.
I almost always have a moment of lightness in a yoga class. That moment when everything melts away and I feel present to myself, to others and to the universe.
More and more lately, I feel at peace when I am alone. It used to be that I felt lonely or antsy or overly in my head when I was alone. These days, I find it soothing.
I have a suggestion.
How to Clear the Mind with Breath
Make some time for yourself. Clear your mind with deep breath. Inhale. Exhale. Keep repeating. Allow yourself to repeat the word in your mind as you do the action.
Inhale -- bring the breath in.
Exhale -- release the breath out.
Do it again.
Notice your heart slow down.
Notice your thoughts become less frantic and hurried.
Close your eyes if it helps.
Let this time with yourself be the place that you find calm and peace.
Observe the stillness within your own heart and let the reflected light show you something new.
Maybe I’m not saying this so well.
Albert Einstein said it beautifully.
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
Our lives are miracles. Even while we’re waiting for our babies.
Find it in your breath and in yourself.
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.