Polite Answers For "When Are You Having a Baby?"
Infertility often poses many questions. Some of the answers are not as clear cut as any of us would like. Trying to answer questions from friends and family when you don't know the answers yourself can be past frustrating.
You know the questions.
An all time favorite, "When will it be your turn to have a baby?". "Don't you want to get started soon?" "Any good news to share yet?"
Basically, any variation of question that asks your about pregnancies, babies and so on and so forth.
How to Answer the Question "When Are You Having a Baby?"
Here are the polite suggestions for answers from your peers, from Ladies Night In Danbury:
- That's a private matter, I'd prefer not to discuss this. How's your family?
- Thanks for asking, we'll let you know when there's any news.
- We're really not ready yet.
- We're leaving it in God's hands.
- We've been trying, and trying and trying.
- This doesn't seem like the time or place to talk about this.
- Did you notice the goat cheese appetizers? (Or any other version of changing the subject.)
- We've decided not to have children. More money and time for us!
- We're enjoying our life the way it is right now. That's our focus!
- It will happen when it happens, thanks for asking.
- No way of knowing, isn't that just like life?
There is no reason to re-invent the wheel. Pick an answer from above, or use one as inspiration to create your answer. Standing there and trying to figure out a new answer every time you're asked a question that makes you uncomfortable is not necessary and can feel like additional pain to an already painful situation.
And if you would like the less polite answers, you can respond here and I will send them to you. Caution, there is swearing involved!
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.