Adoption Is Not A Second Choice, Even If It's After Fertility Treatment
Adoption is a way to build your family.
If you are in fertility treatment, you are likely not also considering adoption. Good reason as it can feel like climbing Mount Everest, with no oxygen, to have to consider adoption while trying to navigate the world of fertility treatment. Another language that is almost indecipherable, another set of hurdles to jump that feel like they’re getting higher and higher, more and different paperwork, all while putting so much into becoming pregnant, can simply be too much.
We know that.
We also know that, just like with third party reproductive options, coming to terms with not having a DNA connection to your child is a piece that needs to be investigated first, before exploring adoption. Skipping the step of examining your feelings about not having that specific genetic or biological relationship with your child is not to your benefit and certainly not to your eventual child’s benefit. However they may enter your life.
Embracing Adoption After Infertility
Nobody wants adoption to be a second choice, even if it is the choice you make after fertility treatment.
The question is how to embrace adoption as the choice that is right for you.
Stay tuned for more on this subject. I’m rallying the troops to get the best experts in the field to talk to you. And mom’s and dad’s. And adult adoptees.
If you have a personal story that you would like to share with me, please email me at FertileYoga@gmail.com. All emails are confidential and your story can be kept anonymous, of course.
We all want to become parents. That’s why we’re here.
The question is how do we find our children? And how do we help them find us?
Adoption is one solution we will explore.
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.