Frequency of Fertility Thoughts From A to Z
This is an oldie but goodie. While I do not believe this will be an eye opener for anyone who is trying to conceive with fertility treatment, maybe this is exactly what we need to fill out and give to our friends and family who are trying to understand just how all consuming this baby making process is.
Maybe it will be an eye opener to our partners.
You have a lot of choices here. Literally, from A-Z.
Thinking About Infertility? How Often?
Please remember, there’s no judging here. No judging yourself, no judging your partner, no judging your friend. This is about being honest with yourself and with someone you trust.
So here it goes.
Conservatively, how often do you think about infertility and fertility treatment?
Here are your choices. Remember, please don’t exaggerate!
A. Once a day
B. Once a week
C. Once a month
D. Once an hour
E. Once a minute
F. Every time the phone rings
G. Every Thanksgiving (and every other holiday, including Election Day, Veterans' Day, New Year's Eve, etc.)
H. On your birthday
I. Every time you see a baby
J. Every time the sun goes down
K. At lunchtime
L. When you have a doctor’s appointment
M. When a family member or friend asks you about when you are having kids
N. When you read an article about fertility treatments or doctors
O. When you hear an ad on the radio for a fertility program in your area
P. When you see an ad in your local magazine or newspaper
Q. When a friend announces a pregnancy
R. When you see an ultrasound of a pregnancy on Facebook
S. When you get your period. Again.
T. When you don’t get your period. Again.
U. When you are given unsolicited advice by a well meaning (?) person regarding your family building
V. The moment you wake up
W. The moment before you go to sleep
X. When you are planning your vacation time
Y. When you are preparing a financial budget
Z. All of the above
Hmmm. Chances are men and women will answer quite differently. If you have a partner, regardless of their gender, have them take the test too. See how your answers line up. It can give you some insight into why you don’t always seem or feel like you’re on the same page.
Do Others Understand If Fertility Treatment Has Infiltrated Your Life?
If you’re willing to risk a little, allow yourself to be vulnerable, hand your answers to one or more people who you expected to support you and who haven’t done as well as you had hoped. Maybe it will give them some insight into how thoroughly infertility and fertility treatment has infiltrated into your daily rhythm of life.
By the way, if you answered any of those with a resounding yes, you are not alone. I know that you’ve heard that before. Sometimes, the answer will be Z, all of the above.
Sometimes the answer will be A, once a day.
And sometimes it will be something or all that come in between.
We get it. If you have a chance, let me know some of your answers, maybe I’d be a safe person to try them out on, FertileYoga@gmail.com.
I’d love to hear from you.
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.