Whose Fault Is It Anyway? & Other Infertility Questions
What do you want to know if you're going for an infertility consultation with a board certified Reproductive Endocrinologist (fertility specialist)? Better yet, what do you absolutely need to make sure you know?
Tips for Your First Appointment with a Fertility Specialist
1. If your appointment is with a true fertility specialist, most of your questions will be answered within the appointment itself.
2. A fertility consultation will contain a lot of information, some of which, even lots of which, will be brand new to you.
3. Most fertility programs will give you a lot of written information to take home with you so you don't have to remember everything.
4. While you think that you will remember the answers, you may not realize how much you will hear and you don't want panic to start to set in from getting overwhelmed.
5. If there are questions going into the appointment that hold particular interest for you, write them down and leave room for written answers.
6. Write on the material that you are given, right in the margins, to keep track of your questions
7. Make sure that during the appointment, you fit your questions in and get answers that you understand.
8. It's more than ok to ask your doctor to slow down or to repeat themselves.
Is Infertility a “Women’s Problem”?
Whose fault is it? Maybe that question is uncomfortable to ask, but face it, most of us want to know. It may be that the question would be better stated as, "Will we be able to know what the problem is in conceiving?" as up to 30% of the time the diagnosis will come back as unexplained or idiopathic infertility.
Infertility Questions For You to Consider
Did we try long enough before we came to see you? Should we try longer on our own?
How do I know for sure if I've been ovulating?
When should we get a semen analysis done?
What things would you like me to start doing and what things should I stop doing?
What fertility testing has to be done? Can it all be done on the same day? What if testing has been done by either my OB/Gyn or another fertility specialist?
What fertility treatment will I need to do first? Do I have choices?
Male Infertility Questions
Are hot tubs really bad for a man? Is coffee ok to drink? How much liquor is ok?
What else can we do while we're in fertility treatment to help things along?
Does what I eat, drink or smoke make a difference while we're trying to conceive?
I'm a runner, a marathoner, is it ok for me to still exercise like that?
There's nothing wrong with my sperm. I don't see the reason to have it checked. Why is it necessary?
Remember that coming in to see a fertility specialist is the step that brings you closer to having the baby you are dreaming of- and you never have to do this alone.
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.