#TwoFertilityWords | Crazy & Obsessed Are Out
I can be like a dog with a bone. Persistent.
Similar to how I was during fertility treatment, determined. What was new? What was unexplored? What could I try next?
What would finally work?
How Do You Describe Yourself While In Fertility Treatment?
The bone I’m chewing on these days has to do with how we describe ourselves while we’re in fertility treatment. I’d like to reframe it for one simple reason.
It’s demeaning. Most of the time.
We call ourselves crazy. Or obsessed. Or out of our minds. Or insane. Or f**ked up.
A few days ago I wrote a blog that offered a different approach. Of looking at synonyms for these words and here was a bunch that came up: determined, passionate, dedicated, persistent, focused, extreme, fixated, extreme and more.
My two words while I was trying to conceive were Unrelentingly Persistent. I didn’t let anything stop me. I found a way to keep trying and trying and trying. Unrelentingly Persistent fit me well then and they still fit me very well today. And don’t they sound a little kinder than crazy? And don’t they actually fit better than crazy?
Stop Calling Yourself Crazy. You Are Not Crazy.
I want us to stop looking at ourselves as crazy because I believe then others will stop looking at us like we’re crazy. Because here’s the thing. We need to be focused while we’re in fertility treatment. There’s a lot that needs to be organized and scheduled and “relaxing” can mean forgetting or making a mistake that can cost time, effort and/or money. We need to be dedicated to the effort because it takes just that; dedication. We are not crazy.
If we stop calling ourselves crazy and better yet, stop THINKING of ourselves as crazy, maybe we will see and even admire the dedication we are giving our baby making efforts. Maybe we will see the strength that it takes to keep trying, despite disappointments.
Pick Positive Words That Define Your Fertility Journey
I am asking for your help. Pick two words that describe your fertility journey and share them here. Let’s tweet it, let’s share it here. Let’s reclaim ourselves with our language.
If you’ve never experienced infertility, you can join us too. Pick a struggle that you’ve had in your life and describe, with two words, how you handled it.
To get the party started, here are a few examples from some fabulous women who’ve already shared their two words:
- Fighting Strength
- Single Minded
- Absolutely Determined
- Razor Focused
- Focused and Determined
- Determination Tested
- Cautiously Optimistic
- Brutally Humbling
- Silent Hope
- Steadfast and Dynamic
- Resilience and Desire
Maybe you recognize yourself in someone else’s choice of words. Maybe you are inspired by someone else’s words.
Maybe you can inspire someone else with the words that you choose.
Please share your #TwoFertilityWords here!
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.