Tired of Trying to Get Pregnant? Unplug From Infertility Stress
Word for the day. Exhausting.
Beginning is easy. We take the first step. Not hard, pretty easy.
Tired of Trying to Get Pregnant?
At some point, with infertility and fertility treatment, it becomes not only hard, but downright exhausting trying to get pregnant.
We're getting enough sleep. So it's not that kind of exhaustion. It's that emotional, mental, weary beyond belief exhaustion. Where you can feel your actual cells are tired.
Repeated disappointments can cause bone marrow weariness. Keeping your hopes up can cause it too. Asking another question. Getting another blood draw or ultrasound. They can cause that type of exhaustion too.
Circular thinking. That'll do it every time. Where you go around and around and around to the point that you have no idea where you started and no easy way to find a stopping point.
Explaining to others. Answering questions over and over again. You know that phrase there's no such thing as a stupid question? Well, maybe that's true and maybe not. It's certainly true that there are exhausting questions. The ones that the mantra sounds like, "we're trying but it hasn't worked yet" or "no, I'm not pregnant yet", or a huge favorite, "no, this cycle didn't work either".
Opening another baby announcement, or baby shower invitation. Yep, those are on the exhausting list. Ultrasound videos posted on Facebook. Holiday cards with newborns being held by their siblings.
Tips to Fight Infertility Fatigue & Exhaustion
How do you get away from all of this you wonder?
How about we unplug for a day? Take a one day staycation, this weekend? Saturday? Sunday?
If one day's too long, make it a half a day.
A book. Music. A board game. Out with friends and a request for no baby talk. Dinner with a beloved. A bath. A walk. A talk with an understanding friend. Gardening. A hammock. A concert. Miniature golf. The batting range. A massage (got you on that one, right?) Manicure and or pedicure and bring your own something to read to avoid more baby stories.
Who's in for this weekend? I'll commit to Saturday night. In fact, I'll be volunteering at the Ive's Center where the Connecticut Ballet is performing.
That's unplugged. That's a way to move away from bone-crushing, mind-numbing, heart-stopping exhaustion.
What are your plans?
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.