12.14.16 Sandy Hook – A Baby After Infertility
Today is the fourth anniversary of Sandy Hook, Newtown. 12.14.12.
I never know what to call it.
The mass murder?
Maybe it doesn’t make any difference what I call it. Or what you call it. Maybe we just haven't found the words to use that make any sense. And maybe there are no words that will ever exist to describe the devastation of that day.
I have a dear friend, who was a patient at RMACT who struggled to become pregnant, who was saddened and frustrated when it did not happen.
She was very personally affected by Newtown. Not in the general way that all of us were affected. Not in the less general way that those of us who live close by were affected. Not in the intimately private way that those who lost a child or a family member that day were affected.
She was affected because she was there. In the school that day. And she experienced the horror, first hand of escaping death. Her best friend didn't escape. She died that day.
That is her story. She has given me permission to share this with you. It is her story though so I will not go into the details any more than I have.
There is a baby now, after infertility. A beautiful, spirited, happy baby whose parents know just how blessed they are to have her and for her to have them.
This is a blessing for us all. We have been blessed to know her and to help her and her husband.
She says that she is grateful for her infertility because through it, she got to know all of us. For her, there was healing that took place within the RMACT family. Shaun Williams, MD, Linda Connolly, RN, Elaine Malin, MTCM, LAc are three members of the RMACT family that created an experience where she was protected, cared for and loved.
I can’t be selfish enough to say that I feel grateful about knowing her through the sadness of infertility. I can say that I feel grateful and thankful and blessed that she came into our offices and into our lives.
There are few markers that I can point to more specifically than this one to remind me of the fragile and immense connections that we all make with one another and the importance of the work that we are privileged to do when we help build famlies.
I speak for all of us at Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut (RMACT) when I say this, "thank you for being the strong, beautiful woman that we have gotten to know. For teaching us the truest meaning of the words resiliency and strength. And thank you for the delight of seeing you and your husband's baby, your happiness, and the continuation of life. "
We, at RMACT, have been thankful to have received a gift from Newtown in the guise of a beautiful woman, her husband, and their baby.
We, at RMACT continue to send love to the families from Sandy Hook.
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.