One Realistic Infertility Goal – Treat Yourself with Respect
Fertility treatment and infertility cause stress. We know that. We worry. We wonder. We hope. We despair. And we start all over again.
This cycle is exhausting. In addition to the actual doctor appointments, fertility treatment procedures, medications that need to be administered and more, this round and round adds to our emotional load.
Managing Infertility Stress & Respecting Yourself
I’m not here to offer answers that sound simple and are anything but easy. In fact, the simplest answers hold a lot of wisdom, such as:
- Letting go of the cycle of hope and despair and just being.
- Releasing attachment to results.
- Assuming that everything is happening as it should.
- Knowing that you are strong enough to get through anything you need to.
- Understanding that you are being made stronger having to go through this experience.
Those statements hold a lot of wisdom. And unfortunately, that wisdom does not always feel accessible when we are all caught up in our deepest desires, most heartfelt hopes. We may know those things are true, and still, we can’t feel those things. We say those things to ourselves and they do not sink in deep enough to touch our hearts. They are not accessible, no matter how many times we say them to ourselves.
They are wonderful and lofty mantras, each and every one of them. And maybe you have your own. I love, “I am whole and complete”. And when I can’t touch that, when that makes no sense because of how not whole and complete I am feeling, I go with any one of these:
- I am enough for today.
- This is how I am in this moment.
- I am a human being.
- My best today is good enough.
- I am grateful.
Whether you are able to access those “higher” states of being, or whether you need to get down to the basics, it’s all good.
It is all good.
Treat yourself with respect and love.
You deserve it.
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.