Kate's Corner: The Infertility Wait & How to Cope
With infertility, there's a lot of waiting. Waiting to become pregnant, first and foremost and then seeing that it's not happening in the time frame that it should.
Then when you get to a fertility specialist, there's still more waiting. Fertility treatment cycles have all kinds of different waiting, including the ten day to two week wait to see if you've become pregnant.
Infertility & Waiting
What is it that you are waiting for right now? The date of your first fertility appointment to arrive? The holidays to be over? Your diagnostic test results that examined your fallopian tubes, your uterus or your sperm count? The phone call that will tell you if your fertility cycle was successful?
Waiting can be a real and intense pain. Especially considering the fact that we live in a world of instant gratification. I am the type of person that has anxiety whenever I am waiting for anything, whether it is something as small as the start of my doctor’s appointment or as big as the fertility news that might change my life forever.
Tips to Distract Yourself From the Infertility Wait
There are a few things I do when I’m in this tense waiting period that I wanted to share with you:
- Distract myself – this might involve watching a movie, talking to a friend, or going to the gym.
- Avoid the “what ifs” – ruminating over factors that are unknown and out of our own control are never productive or healthy.
- Care for my basic needs – making sure I have enough sleep and am well-fed gives me the strength to get through the days.
- Talk it out – Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut (RMACT) has specific support staff available for just this reason, including, dedicated fertility counselors who are licensed social workers. Our counselors are ready and eager to listen.
Waiting is never easy, especially when you're hoping so hard for positive results. Hang in there and remember, this too shall pass!
About Kate Doyle
As RMACT’s New Patient Liaison, Kate Doyle is the first person who speaks with patients before they schedule their initial appointment. Kate recently started contributing to RMACT’s blog, PathToFertility.com. In “Kate’s Corner” she shares her perspective on topics that interest new patients. This glimpse into fertility treatment gives readers a candid knowledge and insightful tips. Kate started at RMACT as a Patient Navigator in January 2013, which is when she learned that she enjoyed guiding patients through the ups and downs of treatment. Her current position enables her to work with patients at the onset of treatment when they need help bringing their limited understanding of infertility into focus.