Infertility Means Saying Yes to Yourself – Even When It Means Saying No to Others
Self care during infertility can mean a lot of different things.
It can mean saying NO, very, very loudly. Outrageously loudly. Gigantically loudly.
No, I'm not going to be able to plan your baby shower.
No, I won't be able to come to the hospital to see your newborn.
No, I don't want to discuss why I don't have children yet.
No, I don't care to hear what my cousin, twice removed on my mother-in-laws side in Portugual did to get pregnant.
No, I'm not pregnant yet.
It can also mean saying yes. Also very loud. Emphatically. Over and over again.
Yes, I'm staying in tonight and watching my favorite movie with my favorite friend and eating popcorn.
Yes, I'm getting a manicure every single week, needed or not.
Yes, I'm going to visit my bestie (who happens to have no children). She lives in a warm, tropical place.
Yes, I'm happy to walk that 5K with you on Sunday.
Yes, I'm all set with great fertility doctors.
Yes, I do know that if I adopted, likely I would get pregnant immediately afterwards despite having tried on my own for three years and been in fertility treatment for two.
No's and yes's can flip around rather easily. No, I won't take more work on means yes, I will have time for myself. No to others often means saying yes to yourself.
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.