Infertility Treatment Mantra - There's Not One Right Way to Do Things
Infertility Treatment - My Mantra
There is not one way to do things. There is not one way to do things. There is not one way to do things.
It’s my new mantra when I want things done exactly the way that I want them done, in exactly the time that I want them done in, for exactly as long as I want them done for.
I believe I know the best way to do things. Sometimes I’m right. And sometimes I’m not.
I wanted to micromanage everything about my fertility treatment. I wanted to know every measurement of every endometrial lining or follicle, every level of every blood draw for every hormone level.
Anything that the doctor knew, I wanted to know.
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Big problem there was that I didn’t have the training to put what I was told into an understandable context. Often it seemed that I knew just enough to get myself into big trouble. Trouble emotionally because everything felt so much larger, scarier and more dire. I knew enough to understand when things weren’t quite right but not enough to know how much it could or would affect my fertility treatment or my possibility of conceiving.
It was like reading the package on the medications.
Oh, yes, I read them. Every single line. Despite only understanding, truly understanding, about a tenth of what I was reading.
What? Did you think you were the only one? Not a chance.
I read about the side effects, the contraindications, every study or trial where it was mentioned.
It was a wonder that I had time for anything else.
In the end, did it raise or lower my anxiety? Did I learn something that I needed to know?
What I read created a list of questions for my doctors and it gave me an opportunity to find out what had significance and what did not. It gave me a chance to let my doctors know what my concerns, worries and hopes were. It gave me a chance to hear answers that were either soothing or alarming and investigate further to make sure that I was making decisions that I was comfortable with and could live with.
Still, I come back to my mantra.
There is not one way to do things.
Making Individual Choices During Fertility Treatment
We all get to make our individual choices. We all have to live with ourselves. We make decisions and it’s ok if it’s vastly different than someone else’s. It doesn’t make them right and you wrong and it doesn’t make you right and them wrong.
With infertility and fertility treatment, you have to live in your own skin and respect your own timeframe. Someone else may skip IUI’s and go straight to IVF (in vitro fertilization). They have their reasons. Reasons that they may not choose to share or even understand well enough to verbalize. Reasons that would not apply to you in your life circumstances.
There is not one way to do things.
Even with fertility treatment.
Or maybe, if you are honoring yourself as a whole person, maybe especially with infertility treatment.
With any decision that you make, count on us to be here for you.
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About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.