Infertility @#*&! Words
Talking About Infertility
To add insult to injury, when talking about infertility the language can be touchy. Some of it is just plain hurtful. And some of it simply and completely, sucks.
Some infertility words I hate:
- advanced maternal age
- poor response
- over reacting
- more testing
- inappropriate hormone levels
- birth control
- no insurance
- credit card limits
- unexpected pregnancies of friends/family members
- facebook sonograms
- not possible
- no further treatment options
- transfer cancelled
- retrieval cancelled
- hyper stimulation
- male factor
There are so many more. These are just a few personal non-favorites.
And to go a step further, here are the worst of them:
Why are those the worst? Because they accurately expressed my feelings as well as my medical condition.
Coping With Infertility With An Arrow Through the Heart
While coping with infertility, I felt incompetent, hostile, like a failure and that fertility treatment was impossible.
It added insult to injury that those words were used to express medical conditions/situations.
Abortion for a miscarriage was an arrow through the heart. Pierced truly and completely effectively.
Sticks and stones and all that?
And the words above hurt me every time that I heard them.
Would you share with me which ones hurt you? Or name the ones that I didn't list?
I would love to hear from you!
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.