Infertility Perspective – Wear HopeFULL Glasses & Make a Gratitude List
Rereading my own blog, this one, couldn’t come at a better time. Gratitude lists are in my tool box but I haven’t been digging down deeply enough to pick them up lately. And they are effective.
They are free.
They have no calories, alcohol, caffeine or bad side effects.
I’m grateful today for having found this blog. My sister should be declared a national treasure. Her wisdom lights the way for many of us. And it doesn’t hurt a bit that it’s accompanied with wit and a sense of humor– original publication of the blog over two years ago. Still, timeless. Enjoy. ~ Lisa Rosenthal
Tools for Finding Infertility Hope
Infertility, for me, was very frequently a huge pity party. I felt every pang of not becoming pregnant, every bit of the loss of another month or year of not having my family. No pregnant woman walked by where I did not feel the hit right between the eyes or more, right between the heartbeats.
Less frequently, I saw the blessings that flourished around me, even as the fertility treatments kept on going, unsuccessfully. I often did not notice the beauty of the day or the steadfastness of my husband, family and friends. Rarely did I enjoy what was available each day; a bit of beauty, a lovely meal, an appreciation for a conversation.
I had an interesting conversation the other day, in regards to this.
With my sister. My younger sister, who is one of my closest friends and who at times can be a complete idiot and, at other times, can be utterly brilliant.
One of her most brilliant moments, via text message is below. The details don't really matter all that much, although they are kinda funny. Still, what a brilliant answer to my question.
Me: If we come this weekend, there are going to be a lot of people in one place. May feel crazy!
Laura: Come, we’ll have fun!
Me: Do you know the difference between fun and a nightmare?
Consider that the only differences are those of perspective.
It was a good reminder. I've held onto it ever since.
I can choose how I see things. And when I make choices, it affects how I feel.
Rose colored glasses make the world seem brighter. Green colored glasses make it seem more vibrant. Yellow ones make it all sparkle.
The Role of Gratitude During Fertility Treatment
Hope colors infertility and fertility treatment. So does gratitude.
Perspective is the difference between a nice time and a nightmare.
What’s hopeful for you today?
What are you grateful for?
If nothing comes to mind, look out for it. Make a list.
Here's mine for today, so far:
A Gratitude List
1. Cooler, unmuggy weather.
2. The cat sitting on my lap as I write.
3. The email from Nora yesterday about Angie spending so much of her day translating into Spanish so that our patients could have the comfort of hearing things in a way that they truly understood.
4. Hearing the birds.
5. My husband's bright smile this morning, accompanied by "I love you".
6. You! For reading this blog.
Make a list. And for me? The more miserable I feel, the more frequently I note what I'm grateful for and write them down.
I'm grateful that tomorrow I get to write another blog.
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.