Fertility Wait - 2 Weeks and Counting Every Moment
Enduring the Two Week Wait During Fertility Treatments
wait·ing [wey-ting] noun
1. a period of waiting; pause, interval, or delay.
What’s harder, action or inaction?
Infertility medications or none?
Fertility treatments and all that they entail or that pause of anticipation until finding out about a pregnancy result?
The verdict is in.
At least with a lot of our patients.
Waiting is so much harder.
Inaction is much more frustrating than action.
Effort is easier than lack of effort.
One would think it would be the other way around.
And sometimes it is.
Think about baking a cake. You assemble the ingredients and then put them together in the correct order. You measure, sift, blend, oil and prepare. You preheat the oven and in your concoction goes. You set the timer.
The work is over and now you wait. The hard part is over.
There is the clean up; putting away the unused ingredients and washing up the measuring spoons and cups and bowls.
Me, I usually have a cup of tea and sit on my back porch at that point.
Now, granted, I rarely bake anymore. But I do cook, very frequently, every day in fact.
And the waiting after all the work is usually not only relaxing, it’s also gratifying for a job finished.
Cooking, Baking and Infertility Treatment: A Different Patience
The difference between cooking, baking and infertility treatment?
There’s almost a guaranteed outcome.
I know if I do certain things, in a particular order, with a specific amount of ingredients that my cooking will come out a typical way. That at the end of the time I will have a cake or a meal.
There is not a guaranteed outcome with IUI’s or IVF.
That’s what makes the wait so unbearable so often.
All that preparation, time, money, effort and no guaranteed outcome.
We set the timer for the two week wait and we don’t know if at the end of the time we will have what we have worked for.
Maybe we will. And maybe we will not.
Nothing relaxing there.
The anticipation overwhelms all the other aspects of our lives during that time.
We wait. We endure the time and focus on the moment that we will have an answer. And we wish time would fly by so we would have an answer.
And very often, as we get closer to the pregnancy test, we all of a sudden want time to slow down, even as we had just wanted it to speed up a moment ago.
Because for now, we can still hope that we are pregnant. We can still dream of our babies. So we ask for time to slow down again because we don’t want the disappointment of finding out the test is negative and there won’t be a pregnancy this month.
A pause. A delay.
We know how hard this wait is; we are waiting with you.
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About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.