Medical Monday! Infertility Style
What's Reliable? Medical Monday and Infertility Information
The internet can be a dangerous place. With infertility information, maybe with anything. After all, if you ask for advice, where else but the internet can you get seven million plus suggestions?
Infertility on the internet, like almost anything else, will offer seven million ideas. Things you should do. Things you should not do. Things you should NEVER EVER do.
And yes, I'm laughing.
You know why, right?
Because if you look hard enough and spend enough time on the internet, you will find that those things you should ALWAYS do and those things you should NEVER do, will be precisely the same things on different websites.
Of course not every one of those seven million websites is created equal. Some are more reputable than others. We have a list of those on the RMACT website (which is a reputable website in of itself).
Here’s a twist though, that I’ve been hearing a lot lately.
Finding a website or professional to confirm what you would like to believe.
The internet is perfect for that.
That’s why there are still folks out there who write back to the emails sent to them about a stranger in Iran who wants to give them twenty million dollars.
Because we want to believe what we want to believe.
Doesn’t make it real though, does it?
Because you can find confirmation on the internet, does not make it true or right or believable. Or even safe.
Sorry if I’m bursting a bubble here on a Monday. Is it too early in the week for bubble popping?
I’m not trying to tell you what to believe.
I am suggesting that you pay attention to who you are listening to; to make sure that what you are hearing is being confirmed by a source that you trust and respect. And not just because they are agreeing with what you all ready would like to be real.
Remembering The Emperor's New Clothes
It’s kind of like the Emperor with no clothes on. If you don’t remember, here’s the basic plot:
The emperor hires some weavers for an extraordinary amount of money to create a set of clothes for him the likes of which no one has ever seen. And lo and behold they do. They create a set of clothes that no one can see.
They tell him that only extraordinary people can see the type of weaving that they will create; mere mortals will not have the ability to see the fine clothing. They show him the beautiful thread that they put on the loom and they show him the material as they are weaving it. Scissors clip merrily along and knots are made carefully. The robes are pressed and carefully hung up.
And the emperor believes what he is told. Or he is too embarrassed that he cannot see what they are creating because that would make him a mere mortal and after all, he is an emperor.
He places these imagined beautiful items on, exclaiming on the richness of color and delicacy of texture.
With great pomp and circumstance, he greets his kingdom for them to admire his beautiful new robes.
And he’s naked.
But that’s ok, because they all tell him what he wants to hear. Some out of fear, some out of embarrassment that they cannot see what clearly everyone else sees.
There’s always one in a crowd, though, thank goodness, who is willing to tell the truth as they see it. In this case, literally.
“The emperor is naked.”
Might want to consider when someone offers to make you clothing whether they are making your underwear as well. Just saying, it could be less embarrassing!
Be open-minded, be open-hearted. It’s hard to hear bad news. It’s natural to want to find something to dispute it, to find something or someone that says something different. When you’re reading on the internet, see who is speaking to you, what their agenda may be. See how much research or data supports what they are purporting. See if it lines up with the medical community and if not, consider where it veers off the path.
There are plenty of types of treatment that can complement and enhance your possibility of becoming pregnant. They are not all medically approved or proven, we all know that.
Still, for me, I’d rather not walk around naked unless that is truly my intention.
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About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.