NIAW - It's Positive! It's Positive? It's Positive?!? I'm Pregnant?
The Positive Pregnancy Test
Ever consider what will happen when you get a positive pregnancy test? If you are in fertility treatment, you will know pretty darn quickly whether treatment has worked or not. If you are like so many of us (and please don’t!), you may even use a home pregnancy test before you even get blood drawn at your fertility program to confirm a pregnancy. (The reason not to: you can get a false positive and think you are pregnant when you are not. Try really hard to resist, it’s so painful to find out you’re not after you think that you are.)
Then you get the call. Maybe you’re at work, where you have no privacy. Maybe you’ve made arrangements to be able to take the call in a quiet place. I highly recommend that. Always nice to have your reactions without an audience. Good or bad, this is highly emotional and having to push your feelings down so that they are not noticeable is a lot of unnecessary emotional energy in a moment where it’s already so highly charged.
What will you really do? What will you really think? How will you really feel?
If you are like I was, you may think that rainbows will bloom over your head, while flowers bloom at your feet. That your skin starts to glow and that you instantly feel a little nauseous. That everyone around you can tell and that your belly is already protruding.
Yeah. And maybe not.
Maybe you will feel tremendously excited and slightly in shock. Maybe you will just feel shock and a slight numbness of disbelief.
Maybe you will feel happy and content. And relieved.
It’s very possible that you will burst into tears or laughter. That happens a lot.
You might feel instantly nervous about even moving a single muscle for fear that it will all go away or that you will wake up from a very pleasant dream.
You may feel all these things and more. Feelings may flash through at lightning speed. In one moment, you feel one thing and in the very next, you feel the diametrically opposed feeling.
You may feel exactly like you expected or you may react in a way that you never anticipated.
Pregnancy Success with IVF and IUI - A Gamut of Reactions
It’s all normal. There are over 3 million IVF (in vitro fertilization) babies out there. Many millions more from IUI’s (intrauterine inseminations) and countless more from other fertility treatment options.
Chances are the reaction that you are having has been had before. A few times even.
Whatever your reaction is, however it evolves, chances are it's completely normal. That doesn’t mean it will make sense to someone who’s never experienced infertility and fertility treatment.
They may expect you to think of the rainbows, flowers that I first expected to feel. And maybe you will.
But maybe you will not.
Just give yourself permission to feel how you feel. And know that you are not alone.
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About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.