Infertility Questions - To Know or Not to Know?
Which Path to Choose? Infertility Questions
Infertility questions lead us to ask, is it better to know the worst possible news or not? I'll bet we all agree about the best possible news.
That, we want to know.
CCS, Comprehensive chromosomal Screening, is a genetic screening process that tells us whether or not all the chromosomes in an embryo are intact. Normal. Since just about sixty per cent of miscarriages are caused by chromosomal abnormalities, the ability to definitively tell whether there is an abnormality or not is highly significant.
And I'm going to admit right here that I'm a little baffled. Here's why. I've heard from several women lately that are over forty, that they would rather not know prior to IVF (in vitro fertilization) and transfer (replacing fertilized eggs, embryos, into the uterine cavity) whether there were embryo abnormalities. The chances in a woman over forty that an embryo would have significant problems are increased.
That does confuse me. Why wouldn't you want to know if it significantly decreased the possibility of a pregnancy loss? Why wouldn't you want to know if there was no possibility of a pregnancy because none of the embryos were healthy enough to create a successful pregnancy?
What would be the advantage of not knowing?
Genetic Screening: 3 Thoughts on Different Choices
I have a good imagination. Maybe even above average. Sometimes it gets me into big trouble. But here goes with a few thoughts on the subject of genetic screening and other choices. I welcome hearing from you, to add to these ideas.
One. Perhaps being able to go through the process of IVF and not succeeding is a way of feeling that you have done absolutely all you can to become pregnant. To know that you've given it your all.
Two. Perhaps you have that nagging feeling that sometimes even the best scientific testing can be wrong and a perfectly healthy embryo will slip by and that you will be the person to continue on with a healthy pregnancy and baby.
Three. Perhaps you feel that allowing nature to take it's course is a choice that you are most comfortable making. That if it means a miscarriage or a baby with mild to significant health problems, that is the right choice for you.
OK, having thought it out, I feel less confused. I'm sure there are more reasons than the three above that I just listed. I have a good imagination, I know, though I'm sure that there are other explanations out there. (I'd love for you to share them with me, confidentially or here, on the blog.)
Personally, I know how hard this decision can be to make. To know or not to know? My choice was to know when faced with that personal dilemma about the breast cancer genes. I was terrified to know either way. Paralyzed, terrified. I felt pretty sure that if I had the genes, I wouldn't make the decision to have what was at the time, healthy breast tissue, removed. When I realized that there were actions that I could and should take if I did have the gene or genes, I gathered up my courage and had the test done. Believe me, it took a lot of digging to find that courage.
I was lucky. Very lucky. I did not test positive for the genes. It does not ensure that I will not get breast cancer, but it's one less reason to be concerned. Some of the testing that would have been necessary had I tested positive for the gene is not necessary having tested negative. It's one less thing to worry about.
Making Educated Healthcare Decisions
I feel lucky that I was able to find the courage and support to have the question answered. It was gnawing at me, not knowing. I worried, secretly and not so secretly. I know that I would have been devastated had the answer been positive. And I know I would have picked myself up and done everything in my control to make the healthiest, most educated decisions about my health care that were possible. What I didn't know was the extant of how worried I was until I knew that the results were negative. The burden that I was carrying was lifted. And I didn't even know it was there until it was gone.
That was my answer.
What's yours? To know or not to know? And why?
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About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.