Happy New Year - The Gifts of the Past, Present and Future
A New Approach to New Year's Resolutions
Happy New Year.
Or as a one of my nearest and dearest, beloved friends said, "Happy New Day".
We put a lot of pressure on ourselves with new years resolutions.
We expect to be able to accomplish what we set out to do.
Infertility is a real kick in the pants when it comes to that, isn't it?
We do everything possible right and it still doesn't work. With the best fertility doctors, right diagnosis, perfect medications and great support, it still doesn't always work.
At least not in the fertility treatment cycle that we expect it or want it to.
When Does Fertility Treatment Work?
Fertility treatment seems to work when we least expect it to.
Cycles that seem destined to end badly, end instead with a positive pregnancy test. Often, we go into a cycle feeling defeated and discouraged and it's the one that is successful.
I wonder why things work like that.
I attended a yoga retreat yesterday to bring in the New Year and release the old one.
Thank you Yogaspace for hosting such a glorious event. With love and appreciation to Glenn Tucker and Natasha Raymond for designing a wonderful day and holding such compassionate, loving and fun space for all who attended.
At one point, we extended a hand behind us in Warrior Two to acknowledge the past. To honor our past as being part of us, not something that we can release in an amnesia-type way. We don't forget our past, we don't release our past, but we certainly and absolutely can forgive ourselves and others and move into our future in a lighter and healthier way.
Our other hand was extended in front of us, reaching towards the future. Our heart and torso was grounded firmly in the present.
I'm so glad I went to yoga yesterday.
With respect to my future? I'm excited.
I'm excited about what I know is in store, what I've planned out and put into place.
I have to admit to feeling even more excited about things that will happen in this next year that I can barely imagine.
Things that will delight.
Many things that will amuse.
Some things that will make me laugh so hard I will have tears running down my face.
I will see things this coming year that will make me stand still and admire.
Friends that I know and friends that I have not met yet.
And so many ordinary things that make a day, a year, a life, full and happy.
Watching my cat attack the dog, lovingly.
Hearing the birds and feeding them on top of the snow.
Watering the plants that are over thirty-five years old, from my husband's grandmother.
Sitting in front of the fire, writing to you.
So, yes, I have a few New Year's Resolutions. I like making them. I like thinking about what's important to me for the future. But this year, I'm kinda content with Happy New Day resolutions.
Today, I will take a walk in the snow with my faithful, happy and healthy dog. Today, I will call my sisters. Today, I will get back into the swing of things from the holidays.
Today, I will release my expectations to have everything the way I would like it and recognize that it is all just as it should be.
Happy New Day everyone.
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.