What Would You Tell Someone About Infertility?
What Would You Say About Infertility? It Might Surprise You.
If you could tell someone else just one thing about infertility, what would you tell them?
That it doesn't have to last? That you will get pregnant? That the odds are in your favor?
Would you tell them that you have more options than you would have had 5 or 10 or 15 years ago?
Would you tell them that it doesn't have to take a long time to figure out what type of fertility treatment you need and then to become pregnant?
Would you tell them that the treatments aren't such a big deal really, at least not most of the time?
Would you tell them that your chances of staying married are better than those who have not gone through fertility treatment?
Would you say that dealing with infertility has made many of your relationships stronger? Including your relationship with your partner?
Would you say that it was more manageable than you thought?
Would you say that?
Would you tell the truth?
That sometimes all those things are true. Sometimes one at a time, sometimes all at once.
That sometimes the truth is so fleeting and fast flowing that what you believe one moment can shift to something entirely different in the next.
How Has Infertility Changed You?
Would you remember to tell someone else that infertility made you more flexible? Less likely to make definitive statements? To think in possibilities and not absolutes? To cherish good news as it comes along, in smaller pieces, one moment at a time.
Would you think to tell someone else that each fertility treatment cycle allows you to learn new things about yourself and how your body works. That with each cycle, new information is gleaned, to be used more effectively in achieving your goal to have a baby.
Would you tell someone that you wish you had known many things before you started to try to become pregnant? That you wish you had realized that there were warning signals beforehand that you hadn't acknowledged? That you wished you had opened your eyes, ears and heart to those warning signals?
Would you tell that there are moments of intense fear that you will not achieve your goal of creating a family? Or that there were moments of absolute certainty that you will hold your child in your arms?
What is the one thing you would say today?
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.