Emerging From Infertility Hibernation to Easter, Passover and Ramadan
Casting Light on Infertility Struggles
Infertility struggles tend to make us go underground, makes us feel less alive, less awake, less whole. Perhaps infertility could be described as the winter season, everything going inwards, hibernating, seemingly dead. Love is always present--regardless of the season, though--and as we move forward into warmth, love has the chance to emerge more fully.
The Moon Phases and Easter, Passover and Ramadan
It's Spring, a time of rebirth, new growth, Passover and Easter. Ramadan, arguably the most significant observance of the Muslim year, begins in late June this year. All of these observances are based on many things, the moon phases being the most important, which they all have in common. The length of each month in the Jewish calendar ranges between 29 to 30 days, according to the lunar cycles, although the solar calendar dictates the amount of months in a year. Passover comes on the same day every year, the fifteenth day of Nissan. Ramadan is based strictly on when the sliver of the new moon is seen. Easter comes on the first Sunday after the full moon, following the vernal equinox.
We know that the moon has a powerful effect on the earth, just as the earth has a powerful effect on the moon. The moon stabilizes the earth and prevents dramatic movement in the poles. The moon also is mainly responsible for the tides in our ocean as it rotates around us, taking it's time, about a month. The earth exerts gravity and keeps the moon orbiting around us.
And so we have a full moon tonight, whether it is raining or not, it is full. The first night of Passover Seder is tonight after sundown, after the first three stars would be able to be seen. In Israel, there is one Seder at the beginning of Passover; in the United States, many Jewish families create two Seders to ensure that one has observed on the correct day, given the international timeline.
Family Craziness and Emerging Into Spring
In my crazy family, of course it's made sense in the past to have three Passover Seders. We've celebrated the first night and the next night with friends and extended family, and the way the hoiday fell in prior years, we came together on Saturday, between Good Friday and Easter Sunday, for the "family" Seder. Because, really, it is all about family. And our families have very different shapes and forms.
A family can look so many different ways. In my family alone, we have families that include biological parents, stepparents, single parents, non-parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, childfree by choice, and more. None of the children seem particularly confused or upset by the coming together of family, some of whom they only see once or twice a year. It's apparent that for all of my family's craziness (and there is plenty), the acceptance of family is spreading to the next generation.
It comes down to love, I think. Not the moon, not even which, if any, religions you observe or have faith in. But love. And where there is love, there is family.
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About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.