Good Man (or Woman) in a Storm | Fertility Problems
Valentine's Day is past. If you are in fertility treatment, hopefully it was a lovely day for you, despite any fertility problems that may be on your mind—a day that you and your partner celebrated with joy and with hope. The reality of life abounds, even after Valentine’s Day, with all that’s good and all that’s bad. Without a holiday to celebrate, can we still celebrate our lives?
I do love being a yogi. I love seeing things from upside down and sideways. Sometimes it's just the best way to see the bright spot shining. Sometimes it's the only way. This blog is dedicated to my husband, a good man in a storm. Actually, he’s a very good man in a storm. Maybe you have one of those too? Maybe you have a good woman in a storm.
Support for Infertility in Unexpected Places
You know what support for infertility might mean for you from a partner. My good man in the storm is reliable and dependable. I know what I can count on him for and what I cannot. My good man in a storm can be counted on for the following:
- Making sure that the bills are paid and the electricity has never been accidentally turned off;
- When he leaves for four days, there will be enough bags of pellets in the house to heat the house for the time that he is gone;
- Calling my mother so regularly for 31 years that she considers him a son, rather than a son-in-law;
- He calls often when he's away, and almost always says, "Hi Beautiful," when I answer the phone;
- I rarely have to ask him to do anything that resembles laundry, cooking, cleaning, or shopping. He does it without being asked, just notices that it needs doing;
- Whenever I tell him that I'm taking time off, he rearranges his schedule and tells me to enjoy myself;
- He prefers me not to color my hair and likes it better when I don't wear make-up;
- Regardless of the crisis, celebration, or anything in between, he is by my side, even when he's two states away.
Infertility Support Takes Many Forms
Infertility support can take infinite forms. Those are just a few examples of what makes my husband a good man in a storm. We both know his limitations. That's where our best friends come in. (Thank you Pamela, Kathleen, Orly, Pam, Tanya, Julie, Julianne and more!)
When was the last time you considered how your man or woman was good in a storm? Infertility problems try any and all relationships. Are you looking for more infertility support in your life? RMACT offers therapy and counseling for individuals and couples as well as support groups for infertility. Please take the time to notice how your partner shows up for you. Maybe it would be a good time to think about how you show up for them.
About Lisa Rosenthal
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.